Are sex toys really only for girls when in a relationship?!?!

Before I dive into this topic please read - DISCLAIMER: If you feel what I say is out of context...do not read past this point.  I speak my mind when and how I want.  I feel I'm nothing but informative on an experiential level and just like to give my input on things that are normally discussed on a day to day basis.  I say what most are too afraid to talk about, where again if we are all adults here...it should be simple! TRUE ARIES BLOG

Now,  I'm not saying dildos in a mans booty hole is the movement...however, there are some cute lil gadgets  that a guy could use at the same time while pleasing his lady. I know some guys are like....FUCK NO!  But seriously...what would be the reason not to just try it out?  It couldn't possibly make you gay if you enjoy some extra sensation in areas that are as sensitive as your head....again, i'm not talking fun stuff for that manhole...to each his/her own if you suggest it...but I'm saying there are rings to go around the shaft etc.  I'll provide just a couple examples...and who knows maybe one of these days i'll have my own lil pleasure party for those that may want to discreetly buying some goodies =) 

For the right kinda guy! 

Now this blue toy is what I am talking about  for men.  Give it a try and see what you think. The round ring goes around the base of the shaft. there's a lil button that starts a vibration.  No reason to be nervous or shy about it...I've always believed that as open as you can be in the bedroom it will manifest into a great relationship with your partner.  Think about it...if you have the worst bedroom activity going on from head game to riding pony's don't you think it's time to change up a bit? Add some excitement? For Real...the less pleasure you get out of your love...the more cranky... irritable and not in the mood they will become.  Trust me I KNOW!!

Sexual frustration is thee worse..however if you are bored in the bedroom that could be just as bad! Being more open-minded helps bring out new opportunities and will have your communication level at an all time high!

Have some control 

Now these last 2 are more for the control of things. Either have the vibes of music reach both the male or female sensitive areas on the same beat. And then there's the remote control ring, Who wouldn't want to control their mans' sexual pleasure while at dinner, a movie or even in the car if you don't feel like using your head?!?!  There are some for women remote controlled toys as well.    I know Kandi Burroughs' ( of Housewives of Atlanta & Escape) website http://bedroomkandi.ohmibod.com/  has quite a bit of interesting toys to play with! I say go for it....if it's sex that you want why not add some extra pleasure!  Again men, don't be so hesitant to try...or at least give some extra teasing to ya lady with one of her own!!

Music anyone?

women's treasures 

"Men will change for the women worth changing for!!"

Steve Harvey really had my attention this morning...I love his goofy ass, but even more I love when he can put a MAN & WOMAN in their place.  Others will disagree cause they hate to hear the truth about themselves, but I like to keep an open mind on what he has put on the table! 


Today's Strawberry letter I didn't catch, but I remember hearing Steve say " Men will change for the women worth changing for."  Of course it could go the other way too....but some women can be so eager to change the man they are with.  I too was one of those woman, and I will tell you IT WILL NEVER WORK! I mean a common mistake that we as women make is ASSUME our men will understand what it is we want from them.  No Man will understand a women fully, and nor will a female understand men completely.  The point is to just accept them as who they are or move on...POINT BLANK(.)









Another thing I've noticed is while trying to CHANGE the person one is with, he/she may lose site of themselves.  Some people  become so wrapped up in who they are dating and that persons everyday life they  forget to make sure they are happy within oneself. I've done this...but am learning that if you really want someone to meet your standards or just change a certain way about them....BECOME AN EXAMPLE!  If you want something out of someone, why not show them exactly what it is that you are reaching for.  If you want honesty...become honest with YOU first and show them how easy it is to just say what you are feeling.  To me,  honesty can come from a feeling within...not just an action that could have previously taken place.  

Lastly,  become an example by communicating, being loyal, and anything that you could ever want in a person.  If you see first hand that someone has the potential to be either the man/woman of your dreams or just some easy fuck...then hey that's your prerogative just don't complain that he/she isn't the one for you.  You can almost tell from the jump if someone is worth your time or not.  You may not fall in love right away, but people can grow into that through the years.  




 I've once said..."if you change the way you think...you will change the way you live," in fact if you change the way you think of others, it will change your entire perspective of them as well...but do it in a positive stride.  Change is inevitable...everyone is bound to do it...if you have the patience to withstand an unchanging man or woman then you can accept the fact that it's just not your call to change them!!