"Men will change for the women worth changing for!!"

Steve Harvey really had my attention this morning...I love his goofy ass, but even more I love when he can put a MAN & WOMAN in their place.  Others will disagree cause they hate to hear the truth about themselves, but I like to keep an open mind on what he has put on the table! 


Today's Strawberry letter I didn't catch, but I remember hearing Steve say " Men will change for the women worth changing for."  Of course it could go the other way too....but some women can be so eager to change the man they are with.  I too was one of those woman, and I will tell you IT WILL NEVER WORK! I mean a common mistake that we as women make is ASSUME our men will understand what it is we want from them.  No Man will understand a women fully, and nor will a female understand men completely.  The point is to just accept them as who they are or move on...POINT BLANK(.)









Another thing I've noticed is while trying to CHANGE the person one is with, he/she may lose site of themselves.  Some people  become so wrapped up in who they are dating and that persons everyday life they  forget to make sure they are happy within oneself. I've done this...but am learning that if you really want someone to meet your standards or just change a certain way about them....BECOME AN EXAMPLE!  If you want something out of someone, why not show them exactly what it is that you are reaching for.  If you want honesty...become honest with YOU first and show them how easy it is to just say what you are feeling.  To me,  honesty can come from a feeling within...not just an action that could have previously taken place.  

Lastly,  become an example by communicating, being loyal, and anything that you could ever want in a person.  If you see first hand that someone has the potential to be either the man/woman of your dreams or just some easy fuck...then hey that's your prerogative just don't complain that he/she isn't the one for you.  You can almost tell from the jump if someone is worth your time or not.  You may not fall in love right away, but people can grow into that through the years.  




 I've once said..."if you change the way you think...you will change the way you live," in fact if you change the way you think of others, it will change your entire perspective of them as well...but do it in a positive stride.  Change is inevitable...everyone is bound to do it...if you have the patience to withstand an unchanging man or woman then you can accept the fact that it's just not your call to change them!! 

The Convenience of a Bad Habit

Many times I fight with myself over things that I know I could change in a day as opposed to in a lifetime.  My reasoning for this strictly is because bad habits make it so much more convenient to be comfortable with a certain lifestyle but later find it even harder to overcome.


Example, if you go searching for something you are bound to find it....So very true.  But if you are looking to find something knowing it will make you more upset than that means STOP correct??!!?! Eh, yeah but when you have a habit of constantly looking for things whether to find truth, confirmation, anything...your mind is set for digging in deeper.

cell phones and privacy...how far do you go?

a lil white light won't harm anyone

Say you have a friend, who is ALWAYS lying like it never fails.... they have developed a bad habit and it's sad because after awhile their mind tricks them into believing that it's the RIGHT thing to do and hey some truth may come from that lie (so they think).  Don't get it twisted I'm no liar, and that's not the case here...just pointing out some examples.







My Bad Habit had me all fucked up plenty of times...and I'm always asked well why do I do it?  I think it's part of me wanting to be RIGHT about something and to prove it as well.  This is the battle I am having...because that type of power I know i can live without...I shouldn't care about proving anything to anyone...because once I know the truth it's then the question of "What you gonna do?"

I'm really working on channeling my BAD Habits to a more GOOD one.  I want to know that if I'm being repetitive in something that it will be beneficial and not painful to my well being.  This and fear are 2 of my biggest battles that I have everyday with myself.  But I'm making a habit to look at things in a different light.

But it feels soooo good lol

Change is not always a bad thing and I'm usually receptive of it because I plan on having lots of Good Habits in my near future...