"Men will change for the women worth changing for!!"

Steve Harvey really had my attention this morning...I love his goofy ass, but even more I love when he can put a MAN & WOMAN in their place.  Others will disagree cause they hate to hear the truth about themselves, but I like to keep an open mind on what he has put on the table! 


Today's Strawberry letter I didn't catch, but I remember hearing Steve say " Men will change for the women worth changing for."  Of course it could go the other way too....but some women can be so eager to change the man they are with.  I too was one of those woman, and I will tell you IT WILL NEVER WORK! I mean a common mistake that we as women make is ASSUME our men will understand what it is we want from them.  No Man will understand a women fully, and nor will a female understand men completely.  The point is to just accept them as who they are or move on...POINT BLANK(.)









Another thing I've noticed is while trying to CHANGE the person one is with, he/she may lose site of themselves.  Some people  become so wrapped up in who they are dating and that persons everyday life they  forget to make sure they are happy within oneself. I've done this...but am learning that if you really want someone to meet your standards or just change a certain way about them....BECOME AN EXAMPLE!  If you want something out of someone, why not show them exactly what it is that you are reaching for.  If you want honesty...become honest with YOU first and show them how easy it is to just say what you are feeling.  To me,  honesty can come from a feeling within...not just an action that could have previously taken place.  

Lastly,  become an example by communicating, being loyal, and anything that you could ever want in a person.  If you see first hand that someone has the potential to be either the man/woman of your dreams or just some easy fuck...then hey that's your prerogative just don't complain that he/she isn't the one for you.  You can almost tell from the jump if someone is worth your time or not.  You may not fall in love right away, but people can grow into that through the years.  




 I've once said..."if you change the way you think...you will change the way you live," in fact if you change the way you think of others, it will change your entire perspective of them as well...but do it in a positive stride.  Change is inevitable...everyone is bound to do it...if you have the patience to withstand an unchanging man or woman then you can accept the fact that it's just not your call to change them!! 

Marriage covered with SEX

In my opinion, there are 2 things that are of most concern in our generational times other than MONEY and that is MARRIAGE and SEX.... If you look at our youth today or even most people in their late 20's early 30's, Marriage is not as much a priority as it was back let's say  in the 1950's or even 60's.  To me I feel SEX has suffocated the thought of even getting married nowadays.  Sex gives the idea of control over anything possible....Hey the more sex you could have with more random people, what's the use of getting married right??!!?

I can honestly say that people have been brain washed as what they see as being the most probable way of thinking that sex is better than love.  I mean from experience, wouldn't you rather have sex with the one you could spend the rest of your life with???

Ok that seems like another fairy tale question I'm sure, but I'm saying rather than get so tied up and hooked into what the WORLD perceives as the RIGHT THING try finding what is right for YOU.  Often times, the female community will get so eluded into the entertainment world that they may never know what real love feels like, hence that puts a HAULT for them to ever consider jumping the broom because single life is the way to go.  Watching a show and expecting your life to be so identical to their reality and not your own really stops these women from ever being truly happy with even themselves.  As these REALITY women contiguously flaunt how much sex they can have enjoying the single life...what about morals set for a better future???  In the same breath....most men look at marriage as a financial BINDING as opposed to the FINANCIAL success one could acquire.  They look at the NO MORE LATE NIGHT OUTTINGS with the guys as a set back but don't realize there are beautiful women that would allow them to still BE A MAN...Roles are changing everyday I get that...but let's not exclude what a good thing could really feel like. Alright, ....enough with all the preaching...but seriously...Marriage can be just as much exhilarating and the sex could be even better but again I'm only speaking from my point of view.